The Communication Commitment

Day 21/30

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I had this whole post planned out & almost ready to go some time last week but for some reason or the other, I haven’t had the chance to hit publish yet.

In summary it’s about how tired I am of talking, of being friends, of communicating constantly with other people.

About how I no longer look forward to chatting with people & how hard it is to keep up with my friends.

And how I don’t mind when a friend only comes to me when they need my help with something or vice versa. You get the gist by now.

Then I see a post on twitter a few days ago that looked like it was directed at me:

a message from a father to his daughter

A few points I’m taking away from the message:

• “You must make deliberate effort to communicate even when you don’t feel like” — see this, this is a struggle for me. When I don’t feel like, I ignore. I ignore till it extends & it becomes rude to respond.
• “Say something that is okay; don’t be overcareful, though you will be respectful” — i.e. responding out of commitment shouldn’t be stiff. I think.
• “Your generation has a tendency to consider people as nuisance & intruders, except when you need them or when it is completely unavoidable” — spot on. It’s not really something to be proud doing but is it still bad when I don’t mind? I think if both parties don’t mind having this kind of relationship, then it’s okay. So at the end of the day it’s about knowing what works for the other person.

I don’t even know if I’m making sense right now to be honest.

I just know that it’s a process, a journey that I’m willing to try my best with. Even when I’m not in the mood to.

🤞🏽

:)