“How are you maximizing this lock-down period?” First of all, I’m just trying to survive
HELLO. beautiful people, what’s going on? I know, we all know what’s going on on earth right now and it’s crazy but we are not going to dwell on the details here, the media already does enough of that.
I keep reading posts on how people should make good use of this indefinite lock-down period; “start a business”, “build skills”, “don’t just sit and watch” and many more like that. These are good all advice, of course people should take advantage of this free time to do something productive and meaningful with their lives because why sit around and do nothing till it’s over right? Right.
I have a few things to say to people who say this regardless of who they are speaking to, people who make it a must to mention it in their every post, every chat, every webinar.
You are comfortable self-isolating because there’s space for you to self-isolate. Do you even know how these ‘advicees’ are faring, how they are coping, do you genuinely care? Why don’t you come out of your regular thoughts and try to see things from a whole different perspective. You might be thinking… oh how hard can it be to pick up one’s phone or laptop, log into a page and start exploring/learning and doing the productive things expected of every ‘serious’ person, well… it’s not so easy.
Not everyone you see on Twitter or LinkedIn or Facebook etc. live in an environment where they wake up and can have 2–3 straight hours to themselves. Some people are forced to live with their family with varying counts of members which means less time to themselves. Also, there are others who low-key worry about where their next meal will come from, because their means of livelihood is currently shut down. Is it that kind of person you expect to be able to afford funds for sufficient data to use for online courses?
Some people just want to be able to survive this, not fall ill, take care of themselves and their family and find ways to deal with the uncertainty and that itself is not only very important, it’s also a lot of work.
The summary of all this talk is; let’s not pressure people through labeling (calling others lazy) simply because they aren’t doing what you expect of them. Talk to them, walk in their shoes, help if you can, especially young people, be emotionally intelligent (I have a post on that you can read about here) and empathize. You can participate in challenges, take courses because you can afford to, some of us have to stay up till midnight to be able to utilize midnight subscription for downloads and there are some people who still cannot afford that, neither the time nor the cost.
Short story on this subject matter: <<I recently applied to participate in a data analysis Hackathon (an online tech competition), I was selected and paired with 3 other people to work on a project with. I wasn’t the team lead but I was proactive in setting up the personal group chat for the 4 of us and took charge of getting the others to respond and introduce themselves because if we didn’t move fast, time wouldn’t be on our side.
We’d already been given our task to submit the following day so we needed to get talking asap. Except nobody was talking, the team lead only said a few words and disappeared, I was basically talking to myself on the group trying to come up with ways to solve the problem. Long story short, we didn’t even get to submit our work in order to move to the next round which was unfortunate and I was really pissed at the people I was paired with cos if things were different, we might have submitted and moved to the next round.
I was tempted to rain insults on the group about how their flippancy cost me potential money but I just left it. After a few hours I was no longer mad, I decided to text the 3 of them personally to ask why they weren’t active, one guy said he didn’t even apply for the hackathon and didn’t know how he was selected to participate, he was just starting out in the field so he had little/no knowledge.
The team lead said she was battling with her hectic work and also dealing with the insecurity in her neighborhood at the time, while the last guy said work got him hooked and the timing just wasn’t convenient for him. Well, as unfortunate as it is for me, looking at it from their side, there’s actually little they could’ve done so I’ve just accepted my own fate. “We move” >>. I hope you get the gist from this analogy.
…Why not ask questions like “What challenges are you facing?”, “How are you coping?” etc. because honestly, what’s the point of a certification if one’s fighting for one’s life?
So for those building skills, that’s okay, enjoy this period and utilize it to the max. I’m a big advocate for self-development but it shouldn’t be at the detriment of one’s physical or mental health.
And for others who can’t, that’s okay too. We are not the same.
…and that ladies and gentlemen is the end of that talk.
You know the drill… book review..
Read a couple of books but I’ll only touch on a few I loved;
· November 9 (Colleen Hoover):
This is the 2nd Colleen Hoover book I’ll be reading and once again, she didn’t disappoint. November 9 is a love story between a writer and his unexpected muse, who for some reason you’ll find out if you read the book decide to meet once a year till a certain time. It’s quite captivating, it’ll have you on a roller-coaster of emotions. I highly recommend.
· My Sister’s Keeper (Jodi Picoult):
A family of 5, Kate being the mid-child, the one who gets the most attention not because she wants to but because she had to be paid attention if not she might die. Kate has cancer and this was the main reason her parents birthed her younger sister Anna, Anna would be the perfect donor for her sister since nobody else in the family was. She was genetically modified. After 11 years of donating and donating, Anna had had enough, she hired a lawyer and filed a medical emancipation law suit. I enjoyed reading MSK, it was easy to read even with the long chapters. I hated the way the book ended though, it was an emotional ending and it had me shedding a few tears lol, I’m a bit mad at the author because what happened didn’t have to happen but that’s her style I guess. I recommend. It was a really good read.
· Everything Is Fucked (Mark Manson):
If you’ve read The subtle art of not giving a fuck by Mark there’s a 70% chance you’d want to read his other books. My thought when I grabbed this one although I didn’t enjoy it as much as I did that one. I liked it because it’s relatable and I enjoy Mark’s sense of humor.
· Don’t Let Go (Harlan Coben):
A book on crime, investigation, etc. gives that ‘detective’ vibe. It’s about a guy who after 15 years suddenly wants answers to questions surrounding his brother’s death. His search leads him to ugly truths he had no choice but to face. The book left me confused though, I have questions left unanswered.
Others I read…
· It Ends With Us (Colleen Hoover)
· Confess (Colleen Hoover)
· And Every Morning The Way Home Gets Longer (Fredrik Backman)
PS: Feel free to reach out to me via mail @ovayozabalogun if you’d like to ask for any of the books.
If you are into TV series, I recommend checking out ‘Good Girls’
I’m currently on season 3(the latest season) and so far, I love it. A friend of mine Collins Badewa pointed me in its direction.
It’s a comedy-drama-crime kind of show. I think I might have made a celebrity crush out of one of the casts; Rio, he’s handsome and his voice…ugh, beautiful. Check it out! please.
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If you’ve come this far, thank you so much! for reading.
Stay alive so you can come back to read many more articles I’m yet to think about lol